Understand your cat body language
Talking about a little of the miscommunication, I want to go over some real basic cat body language that you probably said oh he means this, and it is like completely in left-field the first one the Halloween cat right ...
... you've seen it before cat with arched back tail up an ear and making themselves totally puffed out , and we interpret that as aggression, in reality what it is pretty much the opposite, it's fear the cat will blow up sort of puff, in order to make themselves appear bigger, because they're afraid of something that just happened.
The second one the old cat laying on his or her back, right now when you see your dog lay on his or her back, you go in for the tummy rub, those of you who have reached in to rub your cat's belly you get bit, or scratched. now I call this the cat hug because what they're doing is exposing the most vulnerable part of themselves, their midline if you are facing a potential predator this is that place that you do not want exposed right, when a human hugs another human we are exposing our midline to that other person is a mutual show of risk-taking, and emotional trust cats doing the same thing by showing you that, that does not mean come on in for a belly rub.
Now let's talk about the big one, but wagging tail folks are looking at their cat through dog colored glasses, and are saying this means my cat is happy, as a matter of fact are usually saying the opposite, now cats will start to get worked up, start to get a little agitated to static in the environment by absorbing that energy, it's almost like it comes in this way, and then it gets stuck in the tail, and then how am I supposed to get this energy out of my body, you know and then it starts getting worse right, and then by the time they are ready to pounce on you or anybody or explode with their staticky frustration in like this.
We've talked in the past about the miscommunication, that is inherent with cat over stimulation aggression, so that is you're sitting there petting the cat pet suddenly shock, you get bit the other one we talked about, a little bit was play aggression, your ankles get attacked but why ? because your cat wants to play and is not getting that play attention, we've even talked about how you know your cat can pee on the couch. for instance you're like why do you hate me an insecure cat, will pee on something to mingle their scent with yours as if to say you and me buddy, we have compadres right.
So weather is Halloween cat whether it is the cat hug, the belly rub that we go in for a mission, whether it is the play aggression attack, the over stimulation aggression attack, whether it is the wagging tail, these are all ways that we can take off the dog colored glasses, take off the human color glasses. look at your cat through cat colored glasses, their motivations, what their reality is, and you'll spend a lot less time misconstruing getting angry projecting doing all those dangerous things that we tend to do more with cats than dogs, for sure but pretty much anybody else.